Finding A Life Partner For the near future

Here I would like to share some interesting facts on how to get a life partner...

Golden Rules For Finding Your Life Partner (by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.)

A relationship coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term success. When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love." I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more. Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION #1:
Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important?
Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone.What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life -bottom line- and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION #2:
Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person ? This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person.The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3:
Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions:
Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis?

Are they serious about improving themselves?
A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing." So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic?
Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world:
People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4:
How does he/she treat other people? The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By
giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following:
1) How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as a waiters, bus boy, taxi driver,etc.?
2) How do they treat parents and siblings?
3) Do they have gratitude and appreciation?
4) Do they show respect?
If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you --who can't do nearly as much for them! Do they gossip and speak badly about others?
Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION #5:
Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married? Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage ... for the worse!"
If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Love Birds on the Loose!

Meheron weds Lorah...ah, what a lovely couples.

It was held in Dewan Seri Endon, Yayasan Budi Penyayang Malaysia.

The decoration is simple and sweet. However, overall it looks very grand wedding ceremony :)

So I would like to share is...a Baha'i Wedding.

It all began with some prayers, then wait for the bride and bridegroom to arrive.

Once the bride and bridegroom seated, then some more prayers are chanted.

Next will be the taking of marriage oath, Mr Papunaidu who solemnize the wedding and the couple recites the following verse: "We will all, Verily, abide by the will of God".

After that, the signing of marriage certificate take place, and two witnesses for both bride and bridegroom.

Followed by word of appreciation from the bride and bridegroom.

Once it is done, the bride and bridegroom have to exchange of rings.

Finally, cutting the cake and dinner is serve ;)

What a happy ending for these two couples. Hmmm..how about my turn?? When will it be?? wakaka

For more information about the wedding can refer to http://www.bahai.us/bahai-marriage

Goodbye to YOU my trusted HOMETOWN

Finally, it is the end of my second semester in IPGM KSAH

Life can never be the same when I am in UPSI

But still has to go on and on..by the way look at the bright side, you won't lose anything is experience new environment

I just have to get the hang of it since life is adventurous around me ;)

I am happy to meet new faces everywhere even we might not know each other but still we can get along just fine...haha..

Now my one month holiday is going to be a busy time for me

First to spend time with my buddies since they are back from their semester breaks from universities

Secondly is to attend my ISGP (Institute for Studies in Global Prosperity) for 10 days

Thirdly I will be learning to drive car around my house area to get a hang of the steering..hehe

Well I'm gonna miss my 'sons' and 'daughters' for two years.

I wish them all the best and take good care.(don't be naughty ya ;) haha)

I am going to miss Sa Sa for quite some time. No matter what I will still remember you always.

I will try to keep my blog as active as possible

Take care and Goodbye...

A T-cher Day

It is a special day for all teachers, not just in schools but also teacher training institutes.

This very day is the time for the students to thank the teachers for all their hardships in school

During my time in school, the students cook and prepare lots of activities - indoor and outdoor games - for the whole school.

Right now in college, things are quite different but there will talks and feasts. The following day will have a Telematch which is only for students who send in their names to participate the games.

I feel this is the time we can get together with the lecturers one last time :)

Those students and friends who still remembers their beloved teachers, please cherish and be grateful for their sufferings throughout their teaching career.

Here is a poem for all teachers:

Seeds were sowed over the earth;

The seeds drank cool water under the earth.

Day by day the seeds break free from the shells that protected them;

Now the stems continuously grew under all the nurture and care.

At the final stage, they transformed into a mature flower;

These stunning looking flowers will bloom until the end of their lifespan.

Will they ever remember who give them hope and love?

All the pain and suffering just fade away from their memories.

Happy Teacher's Day

It Ain't My Day

Yesterday I got a Mother's Day present from a bird..yeah
Which is bird poop...lol..I did not expect it when I was reading in Balai Ilmu...haha

In the morning, the seniors Cohort 2 asked me to help them to control the lighting during their Storytelling Concert.
Yesterday they wanted to have a full rehearsal, so I will go and observe how their performance is
However, last night there is something happen so it was postponed to today morning 11am.

During the afternoon, the college is having an outdoor activity involve all the trainees
The aerobics was not interesting especially the guys were standing and joking around
The guys will be playing football and the girls will be playing futsal.
Well there nothing special and they said had to stay back because of taking attendance but many did not turn up, so what's the point...haiz